So you dive right into dating. It's a bit like stepping in a maze, without a map. But don't worry, I've got your back. Let's look at how to make it a lot more enjoyable and less stressful. Read more now on directing conversations.
The first thing you should know is that confidence is essential. Imagine walking into the room with your shoulders back and head held high. It's the kind of energy you want to bring on dates. No one is interested in a Debbie Downer. Think of it like channeling your inner super hero--capes optional.
Now let's be realistic about your profiles, especially if you find yourself in the world of online dating. Do not use clichés like, "I am a lover of long walks by the sea." Be honest but fascinating. Share a quirky hobby you enjoy or a weird talent. For example, juggling with flaming torches is ok. The goal is to standout without sounding overly desperate.
It's time for the first date. Location is crucial! Pick a comfortable location, but one that's not too loud. A relaxed bar or cozy cafe will do the trick. Please, please leave your cell phone in your pocket. A person who is glued in front of their phone or screen will destroy your mood faster.
Conversations are meant to flow, much like water coming from a well (or a tap of beer if that suits your taste). Ask questions that are open-ended. Listen to the answers. It isn't an interrogation but a conversation and exchange of jokes.
You can use humor to your advantage. A funny joke, delivered at the right moment, can melt ice that's thicker than an Antarctic iceberg. Try to avoid anything too risque before you both know what your boundaries are.
Have you heard of Body Language? Sometimes it is more important than words. Lean in when they are speaking--this shows interest without seeming creepy. Mirroring is the best way to establish rapport.
It's important to briefly touch on fashion, because clothing has an impact whether or not we acknowledge it. Dress comfortably yet stylishly. Think smart casual over tuxedos or tracksuits.
You should always be on time. Arriving late sends the wrong message even before you mention your favorite movies, embarrassing childhood experiences or other topics.
It's time to talk follow up because ghosting, unless it's an alien abduction (and in that case, you should send a quick SMS! ), is a rude thing. You should tell them you've had fun! Just a short message that you enjoyed the company of your date can go a long ways in securing a second meeting.
What if no sparks flew? The best way to serve honesty here is to let them down easily without ghosting away into oblivion.
Navigating multiple dates? You may feel like you are herding cats at times when juggling your schedules. Keep communication clear, and expectations realistic.
Hang on, dating isn't always easy. Sometimes it's calm and other days can be rough. Remember your goal: To meet someone who will make you feel butterflies inside. They are out there, waiting.
The conclusion...oh, wait...we said no conclusions? Happy dating to you all!